The conversation changes, but the ending does not.
You revisit the same hurt through different topics and wonder why neither of you feels understood.
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Couples therapy
The same argument keeps finding its way back.
A conversation starts small. Soon one of you is pushing to be heard while the other pulls away. Both may leave feeling alone, even when you care deeply about each other.
Feeling seen is a start
Look at what happens between you
Couples therapy makes space to understand the pattern you get caught in together. I draw on emotionally focused therapy to help each person share what is happening under the frustration, silence, or defensiveness.
One of you reaches; the other retreats.
The more urgent it feels to talk, the harder it can become to stay present together.
You miss feeling like a team.
You want closeness and honesty, yet ordinary moments can feel tense or carefully managed.
Connection first, solution second
The first step is seeing the pattern clearly.
A consult can help us discuss your goals and whether couples therapy is an appropriate fit for your circumstances.
A few common questions
A little more clarity.
Do both partners need to be willing to participate?
Couples therapy involves both partners. In a consult, we can discuss your situation, goals, and the best way to begin.
What if our conflicts feel unsafe or frightening?
If either partner feels afraid, coerced, or unsafe, we should discuss whether couples work is appropriate before scheduling it. Individual support or other resources may be a better first step.
What approach do you use?
I draw from emotionally focused therapy, which helps couples notice their recurring cycle and talk about the needs and emotions beneath it.
Start with a conversation
We can figure out the next step together.
A free 15-minute consult gives us room to talk about your questions, what you are looking for, and whether this feels like a fit.
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